Most of you know that Speedy has not always been
the model citizen that he is today and I know he won’t mind if I tell about
something that happened to him back before he came to have a life-changing relationship
with Jesus. It seems that one day Speedy and some of his biker buddies
were out riding around and stopped in this little diner up in the
panhandle. They walked in and there was a trucker sitting at the bar
eating his lunch and Speedy went over and started giving him a hard time,
calling him names and just trying to provoke him and get a rise out of him.
Speedy said, “Oh, you’re a big man in that
truck but without those 18 wheels around you, you’re not much of a man, are
you?” The trucker didn’t say anything. He just kept
eating. So Speedy continued. “All you truckers think you’re so
tough, trying to run us bikers off the road all the time. It’s a
different story when we’re face to face, ain’t it?” Speedy even kind
of gave him a little shove to make his point but the trucker never said a
word. He just got up, paid for his meal and got in his truck and drove
off.
When he left, Speedy said to the waitress, “He
wasn’t much of a man, was he?” She said, “No and he’s not much of
a trucker either. He just ran over six motorcycles on the way out of the
parking lot.”
That’s funny, not because it’s true, but because
we have all been in the trucker’s shoes haven’t we? We have all had
somebody pick on us. All of us have had somebody do us wrong, abuse us or
treat us bad even though we didn’t deserve it and we have all wanted to get
even, haven’t we? For some of us, it happens more than for others, but
everybody has times in their lives when all you want to do is…get revenge.
All you have to do is Google “how to get
revenge” and the websites pour in. The internet is busting with people
who are fountains of knowledge when it comes to getting revenge. They
might not can spell the word but they know how to get it, at least in their minds.
Have you ever gotten revenge on somebody and it came back to bite you?
When he was an attorney, Abraham Lincoln was
once approached by a man who passionately insisted on bringing a suit for $2.50
against an impoverished debtor. Lincoln tried to discourage him, but the man
was bent on revenge. When he saw that the man would not be put off, Lincoln
agreed to take the case and asked for a legal fee of $10, which the plaintiff
paid. Lincoln then gave half the money to the defendant, who willingly confessed
to the debt and paid the $2.50! But even more amazing than Lincoln's ingenuous
settlement was the fact that the irate plaintiff was satisfied with it. Daily
Walk, May 22, 1992
Did you know that the Bible talks about
revenge? In fact, it has quite a bit to say about it and like only the
Bible can it tells us how to completely rid ourselves of most of our
enemies. I say “most of” our enemies because there will always be
somebody who doesn’t like you no matter what you do and maybe some of you deserve
it but most of you don’t and yet most of us still have them.
I have heard it said that if you haven’t made
any enemies by age 35, you aren’t doing something right and maybe that’s true
but when we have an enemy, the question is, how do we get rid of that enemy?
Let’s look at a story from the Old Testament book of 1 Samuel. Now, when
we talk Old Testament revenge we could very well talk about not just killing
your enemy but killing him, his family, his animals and his whole tribe and
then making it a law that nobody ever speak his name again. So, yea, there’s
that option. But I don’t recommend that most of the time anymore.
If you really want to get rid of an enemy, take
some advice from somebody who knew a thing or two about enemies and how to
handle them. We continue in our sermon series on David today with a look
at what happened after he killed Goliath. You would think that King Saul
would absolutely love this guy and he did at first but he quickly became
paranoid that David would take over his throne and become king of Israel –
which David did – but in the process, Saul did it wrong and wound up with
nothing and David did it right and wound up with everything.
Let’s read about one such instance in 1
Samuel 24. Yes, I want to read the whole chapter but it’s not too
long and reads like a story so just sit back and enjoy.
After Saul returned from pursuing the
Philistines, he was told, “David is in the Desert of En Gedi.” 2 So
Saul took three thousand able young men from all Israel and set out to look for
David and his men near the Crags of the Wild Goats. 3 He
came to the sheep pens along the way; a cave was there, and Saul went in to
relieve himself. David and his men were far back in the cave. 4 The
men said, “This is the day the Lord
spoke of when he said[b] to you, ‘I will give your enemy into your hands for you to deal
with as you wish.’” Then David crept up unnoticed and cut off a corner of
Saul’s robe. 5 Afterward, David was conscience-stricken
for having cut off a corner of his robe. 6 He said to his men,
“The Lord forbid that I should do
such a thing to my master, the Lord’s
anointed, or lay my hand on him; for he is the anointed of the Lord.” 7 With these
words David sharply rebuked his men and did not allow them to attack Saul. And
Saul left the cave and went his way. 8 Then David went
out of the cave and called out to Saul, “My lord the king!” When Saul looked
behind him, David bowed down and prostrated himself with his face to the
ground. 9 He said to Saul, “Why do you listen when men say,
‘David is bent on harming you’? 10 This day you have seen with
your own eyes how the Lord
delivered you into my hands in the cave. Some urged me to kill you, but I
spared you; I said, ‘I will not lay my hand on my lord, because he is the Lord’s anointed.’ 11 See,
my father, look at this piece of your robe in my hand! I cut off the corner of
your robe but did not kill you. See that there is nothing in my hand to
indicate that I am guilty of wrongdoing or rebellion. I have not wronged you,
but you are hunting me down to take my life. 12 May the Lord judge between you and me. And may
the Lord avenge the wrongs you
have done to me, but my hand will not touch you. 13 As the old
saying goes, ‘From evildoers come evil deeds,’ so my hand will not touch
you. 14 “Against whom has the king of Israel come out?
Who are you pursuing? A dead dog? A flea? 15 May the Lord be our judge and decide between us.
May he consider my cause and uphold it; may he vindicate me by delivering me
from your hand.” 16 When David finished saying this, Saul
asked, “Is that your voice, David my son?” And he wept aloud. 17 “You
are more righteous than I,” he said. “You have treated me well, but I have
treated you badly. 18 You have just now told me about the good
you did to me; the Lord delivered
me into your hands, but you did not kill me. 19 When a man
finds his enemy, does he let him get away unharmed? May the Lord reward you well for the way you
treated me today. 20 I know that you will surely be king and
that the kingdom of Israel will be established in your hands. 21 Now
swear to me by the Lord that you
will not kill off my descendants or wipe out my name from my father’s
family.” 22 So David gave his oath to Saul. Then Saul
returned home, but David and his men went up to the stronghold.
If you were to ask David – who was a great
warrior and has killed more than his share of enemies – what the best way is to
get rid of an enemy, he would tell you to make the enemy…your friend.
Now, this is not how David always did it. Sometimes David would take
revenge on an enemy and wipe that person or people out. The problem is
that with that method, there is always retaliation. Some friend or son or
cousin would always come back looking to settle the score. The problem
was and still is that the score is never settled. But when you make the
enemy your friend, the only thing that dies is the score.
In looking at this story there are several
things that we can learn about taking revenge and how to make enemies into
friends and we will get to those in just a second but we first have to address
something else. We saw last week that God often gives us divine
encounters with people so that we can use our God-given talents with them.
In this story, God has given David a divine
encounter with King Saul when Saul goes into a cave to use the bathroom.
You may or may not ever have a similar encounter but whether you do or not, we
can learn some things from how David reacted in this encounter. To say
that Saul is in a compromising position is putting it mildly. There is no
worse place to be than where Saul is at this point and he doesn’t even know it.
There are 600 men behind him in this cave; 600
warriors who are just waiting on David to give the word to kill Saul; 600 guys,
some of whom you know are making jokes way back in the back of that cave.
We will not do that this morning. You will have to come back tonight to
make fun of Saul. I’m just kidding. Let’s look at some things David
does to get rid of his most feared enemy.
First and foremost, David has not given Saul any
reason to hate him. He has given Saul no ammunition to use against
him. He hasn’t done anything wrong. He has acted godly, caring and
professional in every way. Romans 12:18 says, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live
at peace with everyone.” If it is possible! Sometimes we all know that it is not possible
but as far as you are concerned, do all you can.
Proverbs
22:1 says, “A good name is more desirable than great riches.” A good name according to who? Today’s society actually respects a person
more who will fight for every last right and allows no one to ever take
advantage or get anything over on him.
But God says to turn the other cheek and to walk the extra mile for the
other person. That’s a good name
according to God. Be that person and as
far as it is possible, live at peace with everyone.
So, first of all, David has given Saul no reason to
hate him; no reason to not get along with him.
That’s the first thing you do to get rid of an enemy. The second thing we see from this story is
that David showed Saul mercy and he showed mercy when Saul was the most
vulnerable. He had every chance to stab
Saul in the back or slit his throat and end all this chasing around
foolishness.
Can’t you just picture it? David and his men see Saul and his men
approaching so they run and hide in a cave so Saul won’t find them and then a
few minutes later, look who walks in the cave.
Saul is just trying to get some privacy and doesn’t know how close to
death he is. David sneaks up behind him
with his knife out. In his
mind is racing all the reasons why he should end all this.
Saul
has taken everything, and I mean everything from him. David has no place to live. He is newly married to the king’s own
daughter but he can’t go back to her now.
All he has is on his back and he has done nothing to deserve this and
everybody knows it. Now the one causing
all this grief is right in front of him and even his own men are encouraging
David to kill him.
David
reaches out ever so quietly with that razor sharp knife…and cuts a corner off
the king’s robe. Then he even feels bad
about doing that because it showed disrespect to the king. This is God’s chosen man and David knows he
shouldn’t disrespect him, much less kill him.
David shows mercy to Saul, not just for Saul’s sake but for God’s
sake.
And
God says to show mercy. So, there’s
that. Luke 6:27 says, "But to you who are listening I say:
Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.” Do good to those
who hate you. No problem there,
right? That’s all we have to do. Proverbs
25 says, “If your enemy
is hungry, give him food to eat; And if he is thirsty, give him water to
drink.” Romans 12 says the exact same thing. Do you know why it says to do this? It says to do this because it disarms your
enemy and a disarmed enemy is on the way to being a defeated enemy. It goes on to say that showing your enemy mercy
is like pouring hot coals on his head.
Do you want to get rid of an enemy? Don’t give him reason to hate you but if he
does…show him mercy. Luke 6:36 says to
be merciful because your Father is merciful.
If God can show us mercy, we can show others mercy and in doing so, we
get rid of our enemies.
The next thing we see David do in this story and the
thing that we should also try to do if possible is to communicate with our
enemies. In verse 8 we see David start
to try to talk to King Saul. He shows him
respect. He has shown him mercy and now
he tries to communicate with him.
I heard about the man who was having trouble
communicating with his wife and he finally came to the conclusion that she was
going deaf. So he decided to conduct a
test to see how bad it was. Without her
knowing it and with her back to him, he started by whispering from across the
room. “Can you hear me?” There was
no response. He moved a little closer
and whispered again. “Can you hear me now?” Still no response.
Again he moved a little closer and repeated it without
a sound from his wife. Finally, he got
right up behind her and whispered right in her ear. “Can
you hear me?” She finally turns
around and said, “For the 4th
time, yes!”
So many times we have enemies just because of a
miscommunication or lack of communication and trust me, I know, you can
sometimes try your best to communicate and some people are never going to
listen. Don’t let that be said of you. If you really want to rid yourself of an
enemy, you are rarely going to explain him away. But you may very well listen him away.
David communicates respectfully. He communicates sincerely and he communicates
humbly. None of that is easy to do. The question is how bad do you want to get
rid of this enemy? Sometimes it’s easier
to just keep on fighting than it is to make the effort to be respectful to
somebody who doesn’t deserve it; to be sincere with somebody that is a
smart-alec and to be humble with an arrogant person. But that is what Romans means by “as far as it depends on you, live at peace
with everyone.”
That’s not a suggestion. That is a command from God and not to do so
is sin and you can’t expect God to bless a situation in your life when you are
sinning. That goes for any aspect of your
life. Don’t even try to pray for wisdom
for some situation in your life if you have sin in your life. Don’t expect God to show mercy if you are not
showing mercy and don’t expect God to listen to you if you haven’t been
listening to Him.
I hope you have noticed that everything we are to do
to get rid of our enemies is just what God does with us. He shows us mercy. Oh my, does He show us mercy. He communicates with us. He has even given us His Holy Spirit to live
inside of us to communicate respectfully, sincerely and humbly. He has given us His Word to know His
will. Are you communicating with Him?
There is one more thing that we see David do in this
story; one more way he makes sure, to the best of his ability that Saul will no
longer be his enemy. He not only didn’t
want Saul to chase him down and try to kill him anymore. He tried to be reconciled. He tried to make him a friend or at least
show Saul that David cared for him. He
made every effort to be reconciled.
Two little brothers had finished supper and were
playing until bedtime. Somehow one of
them hit the other one with a stick and hurt him and then the war was on! They were screaming and fighting until mama went
up there to get them ready for bed. She
said, “Now Billy, before you go to bed
you are going to have to forgive your brother for hitting you.”
Billy thought about this for a while and he finally
said, “Well, okay, I’ll forgive him
tonight…but he better watch out in the morning!”
That’s not exactly reconciliation, is it? Because David was merciful and he
communicated respectfully, sincerely and humbly, Saul was willing
to be reconciled (at least for a while).
David did everything he could to live at peace with Saul. He hadn’t done anything wrong but he swallowed
his pride and gave up his right to be mad and instead of getting even he
reconciled with Saul and got rid of his enemy by making him his friend.
See,
reconciliation is more than just calling a truce. Because David did everything right Saul was
all in favor of just packing it up and going home. He was moved by David’s acts and efforts and
wanted things to be right between them.
It didn’t last but there was nothing David could do about that. He had done everything in his power to make
Saul not an enemy but a friend and God had blessed it and God continued to
bless David and did not bless Saul.
Now,
Matthew 10:16 says, "I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore, be as shrewd
as snakes and as innocent as doves.” What Jesus is saying is that we are
to be smart; we ought to be cautious.
It’s a mean and crazy world but if there is a relationship problem
between you and somebody else, it better not be your fault.
We have David as a model for how to handle difficult
people and Saul was difficult to say the least.
But we also have God Himself as a model.
David was a man after God’s own heart and this is one reason why that is
said. He modeled himself after God who
wants nothing more than to have a relationship with you. He is merciful, He communicates with us. He even sent His own Son to the cross so we
could be reconciled with Him even though some of us are pretty difficult.
David was merciful.
He communicated and he tried to reconcile but he couldn’t do that
without a relationship with God and neither can you. It’s one thing to not be reconciled with a
neighbor and it’s a completely different thing to not be reconciled to the
Creator of the universe, the Redeemer and the Sustainer, the Father and we do
that through His Son Jesus.
Jesus said to simply believe in Him and we can be
reconciled but that means to admit you are a sinner, ask and be forgiven of all
your sins and give your whole life to Him, knowing that He loves you and He is
in control. Be reconciled to Him today.