I love a
good action movie. Don’t you? They are hard to find anymore but they used to
make a lot of them. I think about movies that starred John Wayne or Audie
Murphy or Jimmy Stewart. Yea, I know that makes me sound old, but I don’t care.
Those were good watching for the whole family, most of the time.
But the
really good ones always had the good guy going by himself behind enemy lines or
charging up a hill all alone into the enemy fire and coming out alive. Audie
Murphy acted it out after he did it in real life. That’s pretty cool. But the
reason that we like shows like that are because the odds are so against it
happening. We all like to see the underdog win, especially when the good guy is
the underdog.
I think we
like for the underdog to win because that’s not normally what happens and we like
to see something different than what usually happens in real life. Because in
real life, when somebody is alone and they face an enemy that outnumbers them
or outpowers them, what happens? In real life, they usually get killed.
So, who is
our enemy? Is it Russia? China? North Korea? The Democrats? The crazy neighbor
down the street? Is the enemy sitting here today amongst us? Absolutely not.
Satan and his band of demons are our only enemies and they know how this game
is played. Satan knows that if he can get you alone that his odds of dragging
you down just went up. It’s just smart warfare.
The problem
for Satan is that God has designed us to work better in groups and God blesses
those groups with power and wisdom that an individual doesn’t have. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend
themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Do you
know what that sounds like? It sounds like a family. But what is a family? Does
a family have to be blood-related or marriage-related? Of course not.
We all know
groups of people who are not legally related who call themselves a family. I’m
talking to one of those groups right now. We are like-minded. We have a lot in
common. We care for each other deeply. It’s not that we don’t care about others
outside of our church, but the members of the church are special. Paul said in Galations 6:10, “Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us
do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of
believers.”
That’s the
way it should be for all families. I don’t expect the old boy down the street
to bring me chicken soup when I have a cold. I don’t expect him to visit me in
the hospital or bail me out of jail. That’s not his responsibility. He might
actually do some of that if I asked, but I wouldn’t ask because he’s not
family. I expect y’all to do that, though, and I know you would because that’s
what family does. We care for each other and protect each other. We lift each other up in prayer. We hold each
other accountable. We give support and comfort when it is needed and sometimes
we do all that just to show our love to each other. That’s powerful and, as you
can imagine, that’s a problem for Satan.
That’s why
the family is target number one for him. He knows that an individual by himself
is a much easier target, so he attacks the family hard every day. And while it
seems that Satan’s efforts to attack the family have revved up in the past few
years, the family has always been his number one target.
Thousands of
years ago there was a man after God’s own heart. He was an humble and wise
warrior and king. He could relate to the little person - the poor person - since
he started as a mere shepherd himself. He was passionate for God and wrote
dozens, maybe hundreds, of poems, songs and hymns. He was sensitive to what God
wanted and was a man of great faith and courage. On top of all that, the guy
could use a slingshot like nobody’s business. And all of that made him Satan’s
most wanted.
Turn,
please, to 2 Samuel chapter 12 to a
familiar passage and a passage that I hate to preach on. I have preached on it
before and, Lord willing, I probably will again because there is a lot to learn
from it. But every time I do, I feel like I need to apologize to my friend.
I’ve told you before that I grew up reading about David growing up and I have
always felt like we were friends. He’s my favorite biblical character and I
look forward to the day when I can apologize for bringing this story up to my
family when it makes him and his family look so bad. I have an idea he would
like to apologize as well.
It goes Ruth, 1 and 2 Samuel and then 1 and 2 Kings in the Old Testament and
this will conclude our thirteen-month sermon series on how to handle it when
Satan attacks. I’m going to read verses
1-13 that talk of the aftermath
of David’s sin with Bathsheba. You know that story.
One evening
when David was alone and didn’t have anything else to do, he went up on the
roof of his palace to get a little air. He looked around at Jerusalem, the city
God had blessed him with. But as he looked, David saw a woman on her roof
taking a bath. It was a common thing back then. So, David immediately bounced
his eyes off of the woman and thanked God for all he had been blessed with.
Right? Nope.
He checked
her out for a while and then sent a servant to go and bring her to him. One
thing, as it always does, led to another and this woman, named Bathsheba, wound
up pregnant. Since the woman was married to one of David’s finest soldiers,
David – in all his wisdom – decided to have the man killed. He’s the king. What
could possibly happen?
Almost a
year later, we pick up the story in chapter 12 with the prophet Nathan being
sent by God to David with a story. Let’s read 2 Samuel 12:1-13.
The LORD sent Nathan to
David. When he came to him, he said, “There were two men in a certain town, one
rich and the other poor. 2 The rich man
had a very large number of sheep and cattle, 3 but the poor man had nothing except one
little ewe lamb he had bought. He raised it, and it grew up with him and his
children. It shared his food, drank from his cup and even slept in his arms. It
was like a daughter to him. 4 “Now a
traveler came to the rich man, but the rich man refrained from taking one of
his own sheep or cattle to prepare a meal for the traveler who had come to him.
Instead, he took the ewe lamb that belonged to the poor man and prepared it for
the one who had come to him.” 5 David burned
with anger against the man and said to Nathan, “As surely as the LORD lives,
the man who did this must die! 6 He must
pay for that lamb four times over, because he did such a thing and had no
pity.” 7 Then Nathan said to David, “You
are the man! This is what the LORD, the God of Israel, says: ‘I anointed you
king over Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul. 8 I gave your master’s house to you, and your
master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this
had been too little, I would have given you even more. 9 Why did you despise the word of the
LORD by doing what is evil in his eyes? You struck down Uriah the Hittite with
the sword and took his wife to be your own. You killed him with the sword of
the Ammonites. 10 Now, therefore, the
sword will never depart from your house, because you despised me and
took the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your own.’ 11 “This is what the LORD says: ‘Out of your
own household I am going to bring calamity on you. Before your very eyes I will
take your wives and give them to one who is close to you, and he will sleep
with your wives in broad daylight. 12
You did it in secret, but I will do this thing in broad daylight before all
Israel.’” 13 Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the LORD.”
Let’s stop there. That’s painful to read,
isn’t it? What David did thousands of years ago and what he was just certain he
had gotten away with is still causing pain even today. Sin always causes pain. God
told David, the man after God’s own heart, the king of God’s chosen people that
I am going to bring calamity on you. Do you see that in verse 11?
To those of
you who think God only “allows” bad things but never causes them, how do you
explain this verse? This is why I often say that God scares me. It’s not
that I cower in fear of Him all the time but it is more than just
respect. He scares me because I see what He is capable of and I don’t
ever want to displease Him because of that, if nothing else.
There are
three things I want us to see this morning from this passage. The first thing
is that Satan will often attack subtly.
Don’t you wish Satan would fight fair and announce what he was going to do and
tell you the consequences and what your options are. I wish he was more like a
good waiter at a restaurant.
“Hi. I’m Satan. I’ll be your tempter
today. Our special today is lust and murder with a side of lying but I have to
warn you it is a bit spicy and will result in death. Can I get you started with
some gluttony or maybe some gossip today?”
But it’s
never that easy to see what is going on. All David was doing was getting some
night air up on the roof of the palace and he happens to look over and he sees splish
splash taking a bath Bathsheba. Now, was it a sin for David to see her?
Obviously, he couldn’t help but notice her. The problem came – the sin came –
when he continued to look and then sent for her. He lusted after her.
I went to
Las Vegas one time probably 10-15 years ago. I don’t recommend it. But hear me
out. I didn’t go to gamble or anything like that. I went with my pastor at the
time and our church’s chairman of deacons. We had a church member go there to
visit her daughter who lived there and she had a massive stroke while she was
there and we went to visit her in the hospital.
I remember
waiting to cross the road one day as we left our hotel. We were standing on the
corner and just before the light turned so we could walk, a truck drove by
pulling a trailer with a billboard-sized picture of a naked woman on it. It’s
literally ten feet in front of us and turning the corner slowly. That was
uncomfortable. But was it a sin? No. That wasn’t a sin to just see the picture and
it wasn’t a sin for David to see Bathsheba. The sin came with what happened
next. Just sending someone to ask about her and then to get her. For him, that
was sin because he already had in his mind what he wanted to do.
But rarely
does Satan use billboard-sized temptation. Romans
13:14 says to make no provision for the flesh (KJV). That means we are to
always be prepared for temptation by not doing anything that would put us in
the position to be tempted. I tell the guys in the jail all the time if you are
an alcoholic, don’t work where alcohol is served. In fact, don’t even
drive past the liquor store. Go 4 blocks out of the way if you have to
but don’t make any provision for it. If porn is your problem, don’t get
on the internet - for anything. Stay away. Maybe you need to stay
away from certain people or places or even songs or smells. I don’t know
what triggers you, but you do, so don’t play with it. Get rid of it.
David was
just taking a little break, being a little lazy that day and took a little walk
on the flat roof of his palace. It wasn’t his fault that he saw Bathsheba
a few doors down on her roof taking a bath. He couldn’t control that but
he shouldn’t have been there in the first place and when he saw her, he should
have done like Joseph did in Genesis and just run away.
But it all
starts in the mind so take every thought captive (2 Cor. 10:5) and be the
master of your thoughts. Don’t let them master you because that subtle thought
is how Satan attacks you.
Another way
Satan loves to attack us is by perverting what we already have. It happens all
the time and we need to be aware of it. He tries to replace the God-blessed
things in our lives by perverting them with something new and different. At
this point, I believe David has eight wives and who knows how many concubines. And
yet, he sees Bathsheba and wants her too. Look again at verses 7 and 8. God said, ‘I anointed you
king over Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul. 8 I gave your master’s house to you, and your
master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this
had been too little, I would have given you even more.”
We talked
last week about how God loves to give and He wants to give good gifts. James 1:17 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above,
coming down from the Father...” Ecclesiastes 5:19 says, “Moreover, when
God gives someone wealth and possessions, and the ability to enjoy them, to
accept their lot and be happy in their toil--this is a gift of God.” God gives good and perfect gifts and He wants you
to enjoy them.
He
especially wants you to enjoy your family. He wants you to enjoy your spouse. Do
you realize that sex is God’s idea? He wants you to enjoy it. In Proverbs 5, God says to enjoy the wife
of your youth. You ought to go home and read that passage as a couple. It gets
a little racy there in places so be careful. You might wind up in the Song of Solomon and things will get
really crazy.
But here is
where Satan attacks. He says, “You don’t
have to actually marry her. That’s just a piece of paper. Why waste money on a
wedding? The law says all we have to do is shack up and say we are married and
that’s good enough. Besides, what if it doesn’t work out?”
Do you see
how Satan has perverted marriage? He took what God started and God blessed and
twisted it. Nowadays the law also says that same-sex couples can be married.
So, just because it is legal doesn’t mean it is moral or God-blessed.
Let me give
you an illustration about weddings. I love the story of when Abraham sent
Eliezer to find a wife for Isaac. Do you remember the wedding ceremony they had
when Eliezer came back with Rebekah? The ceremony consisted of the two of them
walking into a tent. That was the wedding. But that’s what they did in that
culture. Our culture is different. So, how could it make any difference before
God? Why doesn’t God bless common law marriages?
Well, let me
ask you this. Why do we get baptized when we ask Jesus to be Lord of our lives?
We do it because Jesus said to do it and we do it to show that we are followers
of Him. We want the whole world to know that by this symbolic act of being
dunked under water that we are followers of Jesus. Does it save us? Is that how
you get to Heaven? No! That is just an outward sign in front of Heaven and
earth that we have made an inward choice.
It’s the
same with a wedding. We stand before God and family and friends and, according
to our custom, we tell everyone that this person is our choice for life. And
when we do that, Satan screams! And he will attack it but when we make God look
good in our marriage, God blesses it.
Satan wants
to counterfeit every good thing we have. He wants to pervert what God has said
is good, like finding a wife or a husband and perverting marriage or by making
you think that what you have is not as good is what somebody else has. He wants
you to think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. But God
hasn’t blessed that grass for you.
Okay, I’m
running out of time so it looks like we will have plenty to talk about tonight.
Let me get to the last point I want to make and that is that, as a rule, as the
man goes, so goes the family. God is all about order. The universe has order.
There is order in the plants, the ocean, the trees and there is order in the
family. That is how God designed it.
1 Corinthians 11:3 says, “But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and
the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.” Think about
what sins David had committed in his affair with Bathsheba. He lusted, raped, lied,
murdered, fornicated and deceived and who knows what all else. Now, if you were
to continue reading in the next several chapters, do you know what you would
find David’s sons doing? Lusting, raping, lying, murdering and fornicating and
who knows what all else.
Where do you
think they learned all that? He was not a good father and his sons learned to not
be good fathers either. Now, ladies, this doesn’t let you off the hook at all.
In fact, your family will learn from you as well. Do you know who the best
example is of surrendering to Jesus? A wife who surrenders to her husband.
The church
is the bride of Christ and, as such, we have a wonderful relationship with our Savior.
We walk and talk with Him and communicate with Him and when He has plans, we
surrender our plans. We surrender our will to His. We know His will and His way
is perfect and we trust Him.
In the
Christian home, the man is the head of the house and while his will and way may
not be perfect, there will be loving communication and, in the end, there will
be surrender by the wife. That’s not me being sexist. That’s not my idea. That
is God’s plan and it has been since the beginning and it works best since the
man is under Jesus and loves his wife more than himself.
Years ago, I
went with this girl I was dating to her family Thanksgiving family reunion. The
whole family was there: mom, dad, sisters, brothers, cousins, uncles and aunts
and, of course, MawMaw and PawPaw. We had a big meal and then went into the
living room and everybody was happy and full and having a good time and one of
the grandkids asked PawPaw a question.
“PawPaw, if you had it to do all over
again, would you?”
“No.” PawPaw said without a smile.
There was an
uncomfortable silence and the grandkid tried to explain. “You know what I mean, PawPaw. Would you meet MawMaw and have kids and grandkids
all over again?”
Again,
PawPaw just answered, “No.”
“Well, why not???”
“Too hard.”
He’s right.
Raising a family is hard. Doing it right is hard. It’s almost as hard as trying
to get through this life without a family, which is right where Satan wants you
to be. You don’t have to have a blood family. If nothing else, you have this
family and this family loves you and will protect and provide for you. If you
doubt it, just ask some members of this family.
Satan is
prowling around like a roaring lion trying to kill you dead (1 Peter 5:8). You
need help. You can’t face him alone. When you join the Kingdom of God and join
this family of believers, you will continue to be attacked by Satan but now you
have backup. You have brothers and sisters who love you and will help you as we
all submit to Jesus as a family.
Accept Jesus
as your Lord and Savior today. Ask Him to forgive you of your sin and then
repent, turn away from that sin. Then allow Him to come into your life and
change you from the inside out. Do that right now as the music plays.